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facts of life: 1) Your attention makes things bigger than they are. 2) Complaining ALWAYS makes things worse. 3) What you DO is more important than what you SAY. 4) Success is not achieved, it is practiced. 5) Happiness is a decision. 6) Blame serves no purpose. 7) Habits control your life and you can choose your habits. 8) Regardless of what you think, you are no less capable than anyone else. 9) You can get the things you want by making them priorities, goals and plans. 10) You are capable of controlling what you think, say and do. It is your personal responsibility to do so. The breakdown: 1) Your attention makes things bigger than they are. Have you ever been cut and didn't even realize it until you saw the blood? That is because your attention makes things bigger and more real. If you were to focus your attention on how you feel (either good or bad) that feeling would actually become stronger even though nothing changed. Try this for yourself. The next time you feel good, just focus your attention on how good you feel and what made you feel good in the first place. Before very long, you'll feel even better. If you were to get in the habit of using this on purpose, you could literally make yourself feel exactly how you want to feel whenever you want. This works for any feeling! Try it and practice with this as often as you care to. Focusing your attention can help take you anywhere you want to go. 2) Complaining ALWAYS makes things worse. You can help create a better life for yourself if you make it a point to NEVER COMPLAIN AGAIN. As stated above, your attention makes things bigger than they really are. By complaining (talking about how bad something or someone is), you are focusing your attention on something negative for an extended period of time, which actually makes what you're complaining about even worse. Our goal as humans is not to make things worse. To break the habit, when you notice something that isn't to your liking - do NOT say anything about it - just find something else to focus on or go DO something that you WANT to do that serves your goals in life. The more you practice this, the easier it will become - just like anything else. 3) What you DO is more important than what you SAY. It's so easy to say just about anything. How hard would it be for you to say the words, "I can run 65 miles per hour". Easy to say but not easy to do, right? Through habits of laziness, human beings have become increasingly comfortable saying things they have no intention of actually doing. This is a shame because when what you say and what you do don't match, it is a lie. Lying to other people and even to ourselves seems more widely accepted than ever before - but we don't want to be dishonest, do we? It's just something that just kind of happens, the words come so easy - but the action to back those words up seems a little more like work. If you'd like to see an improvement in how things go for you, try saying less and doing more. If you want someone to feel like you care about them, don't just tell them.. SHOW THEM. 4) Success is not achieved, it is practiced. Success is not a dollar amount, a place you live or a destination people just end up at. To be successful, we must first decide what success means to us as individuals. We all have different interests and goals, so our personal definition of success is equally an individual thing. But, in order for us to reach our individual definition of success, we must continue to practice the things that make us feel successful or those feelings of success will fade and any physical evidence that was present will fade. What do I mean? If making $100,000.00 a year, driving a newer reliable car, having pure relationships with people and living in a safe neighborhood is your definition of success for you and you actually obtain those things - if you don't continue to do the things you did to get these things, they will not last. Another example is your body. If you exercise and control your diet in order to reach a certain weight or level of strength or fitness, but fail to continue working out once you reach your goal - it will go away. People often say, "Success is a journey, not a destination" and to a great extent, that's true. But once you actually get the things you want, you need to continue practicing the same behavior so you can keep or increase what you have. "Use it or lose it" isn't just some annoying cliche, it's truth. 5) Happiness is a decision. I know this is really difficult for some people to wrap their mind around, but it's absolute fact. We can feel exactly how we want to feel. If you spent more time thinking about the things that make you feel happy over the things (or people) that make you miserable, you'd feel more happy. People who have become way too comfortable passing blame, complaining or trying to impress others by how bad they have things are always so surprised when happiness doesn't just happen to them. They act like happiness is just flying around and magically lands on certain people, but not people like them. WRONG! Happiness is a feeling. And like ANY other feeling, we can (and should) create happiness at will. If you were to force your attention for 24 hours straight on the things, people and places that make you feel happy - and DO the things you really enjoy doing, guess what would happen? You'd feel happy a large portion of that 24 hours! No it's not perfect, and sure, you might stub your toe or do something to put that happiness on hold for a little while... but, you would have created the feeling of happiness, on purpose, just like anyone can at any given time. 6) Blame serves no purpose. Blame is an ugly, exaggerated version of dealing with things (or people) that aren't perfect. Let me be clear - it's important to claim responsibility for things but to take it the extra step and start blaming is just useless. Blame is like complaining, it's an ugly personality trait that needs to make things or people wrong. People are responsible for their own actions (whether they admit it or not). Just owning up to that responsibility is enough, blame truly isn't necessary. Things are going to end up less than perfect for the rest of our lives. Recognizing when something needs work and getting to work to improve things is the proper response. The need to harp on something and make it wrong over and over again is a pathetic waste of time that doesn't serve anyone or anything. 7) Habits control your life and you can choose your habits. Our habits determine where we end up. A habit is something you just do. It happens so easily, often without even thinking about it, over and over again. The things you say, do, eat, drink and think most of the time are YOUR habits. You can decide your habits in advance and change the habits you don't like. Take the time to examine your habits and how those habits are helping (or keeping you from) all the things you REALLY want. What habits would bring you closer to the things you want? Write down these new, weird, uncomfortable things and start in practicing them EVERY day. If you can do this for one month, these things will become second nature to you [habit] and will happen as easily as your current habits do. Simple examples of habits at work: Hitting a part of your body on something and saying ouch even if you're not hurt. Driving to work, even when you're not going that way this time. Picking up something to eat or drink when you're not hungry or thirsty. Habits are really powerful... USE THEM to your advantage! 8) Regardless of what you think, you are no less capable than anyone else. Sooner or later, everyone tries to cop out. "I can't do that because...." It's a total cop out... There are people walking around this planet with all the things you want - and they are NO smarter, more attractive or capable than you. They were just less willing to make excuses for themselves. They weren't as fearful to take the chance. Human beings are VERY capable! Even people with physical and mental handicaps prove their capability by taking control of their own minds and bodies and achieving things in spite of their problems. That is such a powerful lesson for us all - we are capable! Don't make the mistake of confusing willingness with capability. Just because you're not willing to do something does NOT mean you're not capable. Because you are capable of anything you decide worth working for! 9) You can get the things you want by making them priorities, goals and plans. Wishing does nothing but make you more aware of the things you want. No amount of wishing will make anything happen by itself. Most people only want things as long as they are convenient to want. You are more than welcome to exclude yourself from this group by doing the things listed on this website that virtually provide a road map to the things you want. Ultimately you create the map itself based on your personal wants and needs in life. But by taking those desires and making them a priority, you get that much closer. By taking that and breaking it down into goals and plans, you're even closer. By taking ACTION on your plans every day, you begin to make your dreams REAL. 10) You are capable of controlling what you think, say and do. It is your personal responsibility to do so. In 99.999% of all human experience the lottery will not make you rich. Products will not make you feel beautiful. Pills will not automatically give you a better body. No book, website or advice from a friend will do anything for you all by itself without you doing your part. No matter what the situation, there is always something you can do, even if it's simply changing your attitude about something that happened. We are fully responsible for our own lives, what we have, how we feel, who we hang around with and how we are seen by others. If you want to be seen as an honest person, it is your total responsibility to make sure that every time your mouth opens, the truth comes out. As stated earlier, the truth is when what you say and what you do are exactly the same. By controlling the things you think, say and do - you control your life. By controlling your life, you are basically steering where you go and controlling the speed you get places. This determines what you get and how you are seen by others. The mistake most people make in life is making decisions as they go along and as things pop up. The best time to make a decision is right now. Decide in advance how you want to be, decide in advance how you want to feel and all the things you'd like to have and experience. Write them down, make them a priority, focus your attention on them and break these things down into plans. A plan is nothing more than TINY steps for you to take, like a map. You don't just go from New York to Tokyo Japan in one step do you? Of course not, you'll need tickets, a ride to the airport, clothes and things to take along, etc. There are MANY simple, little steps in just about anything you'll ever want to do. You can't actually take the steps until you know what they are, so it is VITAL that you break every goal down into these 'baby steps'. If you want peace of mind, happiness, more money, caring friends, a great home life, a nicer car or basically anything in your life - it is YOUR responsibility to make the plans to make these things a reality for you. People like me can tell you all day long HOW to do it, but it is 100% up to you for the action part. YOU are the "go to" person here, it's YOUR life - take full responsibility for shaping it into anything you want. You are capable! You have the tools, it's just a matter of using them. That's about it for today - never give up!! The ONLY failure is the failure to try! |
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